Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Happy Surprises on Weekdays

My days from Monday - Friday usually is a routine just like many others where I go office and after a day's work return home, have home food and sleep after night surfing in the TV/reading a book. But today and yesterday were a bit different than the rest. The reason is I am back in Hyderabad for a official trip and the week is going fantastic till now. Yesterday at 4.pm in the evening, I had this sudden surge and overwhelming desire to hit Coffee day and treat my taste buds with the chocolate dripping brownie. I can't resist myself to such sudden cravings. I rarely feel eating chocolate - and yesterday was one such day. I was fortunate to have my sister giving me company to Coffee day. We ordered that Sizzle Dazzle Brownie and it was just really fire and ice meeting together. The chocolate brownie filled with nuts and the dark steaming sauce dripping in the sizzling plate with a vanilla scoop on the top -- it was mouth watering. I tasted and enjoyed thoroughly each and every spoon of it. I was like over-excited and put a hot spoon of the sauce in my tongue and it burnt my tongue and I can feel the difference in the tongue even after 24 hours of eating that. :) :) After this wonderful desert, ma and my sister had a nice roaming in the craft village near by and the day ended with a finger-licking KFC dinner treat.

Today is more exciting than yesterday and a bit surprising even. Before the surprise, a small recap - I am a small fan of Michael Crichton books. The speed with which his story moves enthralls me. Some years back, when my cousin was clearing his old book shelf, We(me and my sister) had borrowed(read as:need not return) few old books of Crichton, Sheldon. One book is the "Sphere" novel by Crichton. 3 months back, I got hold of the old novel and started reading it on a journey from Secunderabad to Chennai in Charminar Express. Missed the book in the train itself due to my negligence and felt so bad so bad in losing a precious book. It was a wonderful book and I tried searching it almost everywhere I could, in Chennai but with vain. Tried buying it online even, but ended up reading a e book format. The passion to finish the book was so much that I downloaded it to my phone and kept reading whenever I find time Finally, after all these days, today when I was roaming around in Hyderabad, I found this second hand book shop close to our old home. I was damn sure that I will not get the book here too. But to my great surprise - the book was there and that too in a throw away price. I was thanking the book storekeeper so much and smiling the whole time from then. I shall finish the last few pages left soon - may be again in a similar journey from Secunderabad to Chennai 2 days later. Ain't I so lucky today?

People who read my blog might be knowing that Landmark store at Somajiguda in Hyderabad is my favorite place in the city. How can I not go there after coming all the way to Hyderabad. Yes this time I hit the shop and got another new novel about which I would come up with a different post altogether. Wish, my 2 more days in hyderabad go smoothly with more surprises and luck favoring me :)

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Street Harassment


Came across reading about this issue in TBG's blog as well as another link in Facebook. So thought of pouring out my views and my personal experience on this. I wish to find the first person on the world who has given the rights to a guy/who has taken the right himself to harass women on public places. That person has to be crucified. Those who try to misbehave with the fairer sex think themselves as some super heroes and take liberty to enter into the other's personal space. They can't justify their act for any valid reason. Ogling at women in super markets, in parking lots, trying to get their hands upon women in public transport, commenting upon looks while walking on a busy road etc etc - the list could be endless. I am very sure that not even a single women in India is spared from all this.

I remember an incident during my college days when I and my friend were travelling in bus from our college to the main city. We were seated in the front in ladies seat. I was close to the window and my friend close to the aisle. Then there was this guy who tried to misbehave with us. We were quiet for some time to ignore him - no use, then complained to the conductor about him - no use, tried hitting him with our bags - no use, a kind aunty came forward and stood near us after which he could not come close to us. We finally ended up joking within ourselves that even if there is a women doll made to stand in the centre of the bus, they will not stop ogling at it. This happened 4 years back. Why is this still so fresh in my memory?

Another Incident, Once, it was close to 8 in the evening in Hyderabad and it was a holiday and MMTS stations were pretty deserted. I usually get inside the ladies compartment in trains, but since it was late and the train which came didnot have a separate compartment, I got inside the general one. The crowd looked decent except for a drunken fellow who started to show off. The travel was just 15 minutes, but it looked to me as if I am crossing a 15 hour journey and tried to avoid him by moving close to the door. He followed again, but could not cross his limits as I had to alight at my station. Not even a single soul in the train tried to stop him from following me inside the train. I had witnessed this kinds so many times - once a women had removed her sandals and hit a guy so fierce fully since he had misbehaved with her. Another time a friend of mine slapped hard on a person's face which had given a full palm impression on his chin. She ended up having a pain in her hand for
2 days, though.

True, that Counter-attacking persons who violate our privacy is the only way to safe guard ourselves from these road-side romeos. But to how many people shall I go and teach/hit personally? Especially when they are drunken, whatever geetha upadesh, I give him -- its just going to cost me severe. For the fear of these incidents, I stopped using bus transport most of the times. I can carry pepper sprays, compass needles, a umbrella, wear a high heel, appoint a body guard to handle them, but what is the use? Are they going to stop? I feel sick to tell this that some guys in my college{who were engineers with a big NITT tag name} had ogled and passed comments on my MOM in front of me at a college festival. Should those guys be taught what is right/wrong? Or don't have the decency to keep their mouth shut and eyes at the right place?

The issue of harassment is not going to stop unless men are taught the basic sense to respect women and leave her on her own terms. Ignoring them and being un-reactive most of the times had helped me, but not always. If the genetic make of the X chromosome is faulty then I don't know how to deal with it.